According to Psychology Today, “Psychopathy is among the most difficult disorders to spot. The psychopath can appear normal and even charming. Underneath that, he lacks conscience and empathy, making him manipulative, volatile and often (but by no means always) criminal.”
Professor Robert Hare, a criminal psychologist and the creator of the PCL-R, a psychological assessment used to identify a psychopath, said, “It stuns me, as much as it did when I started 40 years ago, that it is possible to have people who are so emotionally disconnected that they can function as if other people are objects to be manipulated and destroyed without any concern.”
Here are the warning signs that you might be in one!
Psychopaths and narcissists indulge in self-sabotaging behavior like keeping in touch with an ex for constant validation. They cannot handle rejection as it is a blow to their sky-high ego. In the middle of this chaos, you will be confused and think they are always in demand.
They will never take ownership of their abusive behavior. They will use gaslighting as a tool and you will constantly second-guess yourself. Psychopaths and narcissists are experts in mind games and will trick you to believe that it is your response to their abuse that is toxic.
For instance, they will ignore you and end up calling you needy, or flirt with a lot of people and say you’re invading their personal space. They will try to prove that you are insane and use your reactions against you.
They will underestimate you and eventually the relationship will go sour. You will look to find faults in yourself and the psychopath will be carefree, making you feel like a burden.
They are parasites who will feed on your energy, leaving you drained, both emotionally and physically. You can adore them endlessly and that still won’t be enough.
You will become anxious about everything and panic at the drop of a hat. You’ll cry, cut off important people, apologize even when you’re not at fault, and feel empty.
Such relationships scar you, but everything heals with time. Severe all ties with the psychopath – emails, text, social media – everything. Do not look back. You deserve better and will find fulfilling relationships in the future.
7.They love-bomb and flatter you
Love bombing is a technique in which a person is influenced by demonstrations of attention and affection. They usually are believers of whirlwind romances which includes three main phases: idealization, devaluation, discarding. These stages may not occur one after the other, as the abuser might decide to jump from one to another. They will worship you one moment and abandon you in the next, leaving you completely dazed. The vicious cycle continues till the victim or the abuser quits.